The Problem with Positive Thinking

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Ever since I started to make these videos I planned on talking about this awful thing we call positive thinking. Finally I managed to not just make one video on the topic, but two. Of all the responses and comments the chronically ill get, “Be positive” has to be the one that annoys me the most! You see, I used to be a fundamentalist positive thinker – I know the mind-set and even though at the time I believed every stupid word that came out of my mouth, I now know the damage I did to myself and to others. As far as I can tell, being a positive thinker didn’t really do anything for me and it certainly didn’t prevent me from getting ill.

In the first video I look at what positive thinking should be and what it has become in our modern society. I also take a general look at why it is so flawed and is really the worst possible way we can choose to govern our emotions.

In the second video I look at the results of several studies which not only show how bad positive thinking is for us, but also the benefits of negative thinking.


Included here are the studies I quoted in the second video.

  • Karen davies

    Hi having been recently diagnosed and struggling with the acceptance bit, would be interested to know of all the different things you tried to get better. Am being bombarded with different things on the Internet in the hope of perhaps taking control abit. I think that you mentioned that you would discuss this in one of your recent videos. Any advice gratefully received

    • Jay

      Hi Karen! I’m sorry I’m only replying now. Firstly, thank you so much for taking the time to comment. I’m sorry you’re struggling at this time and I can absolutely relate. So many, if not all of us, go through the same thing when we’re first diagnosed. I am going to be addressing the points you brought up in upcoming videos. I am touched beyond words that you would ask me to share this information. The first video about Acceptance should be up this Wednesday and I will definitely make a point to discuss more treatments and therapies and the things that have worked for me in future videos. Thank you again.